And I mean that in the most unselfish way. Thirteen just happens to be my lucky number. I was born on Friday the 13th and it has brought me good fortune ever since... so '13 will surely bring me more amazing memories, moments and life lessons. In honor of my lucky number, I have written 13 goals for different areas of my life. Here they are:
These are goals for life in general. I have not set numeric values to each goal because I want to succeed at each of them. I want to feel like I have accomplished them; I don't want to measure the stats.
- Breath more. Specifically when I feel myself about to nag, complain, or argue. "To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times, what people need it not a brilliant mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens."
- Minimize the amount of money I pour into redecorating my house. Instead, let's save that money toward our next down payment.
- Read more. Even if it means blogs or gossip magazines.
- More date nights. Two kids is no joke. Nick and I must make the time to reconnect and talk one on one.
- Drink more water. At least 1 glass a day. Seriously, I'm that bad at it.
- Listen to more music. Instead of TV being my noise pollution while I work, I need to start turning on the tunes.
- Continue budgeting. Last years lone goal was to follow a written budget. And while we didn't keep up with the anal tracking sheet I wrote, we have been doing decent at being thoughtful with our funds.
- Shower more. Ugh. But honestly... as bad as it sounds, I've got to start making this a priority.
- Minimize the amount of TV that I watch. But increase the amount of documentaries and great films that I see.
- Encourage my kids to play outside all weekend. We're pent up while I work during the week so we need to take advantage of the time I have off.
- Hire a housekeeper. I have the reference, she's in my budget, now I need to get out of my frugal habits and HIRE HER!!
- Reorganize the garage quarterly. We need to continue with this goal and create bins for each holiday since the kids are LOVING each time we decorate and celebrate.
- Work diligently to be more effective with my time. Working from home while watching the kids and cleaning the house and making dinner and running errands and writing a blog to track it all can be... well... time consuming. So I need to start making specific times to conquer each task and overlap tasks only when it's effective and beneficial. This may also mean that I need to look into more child care.
Reverse Psychology Goals
Let's call these the male goals... ones aimed at Nick and Caden. These are the things that I nag about. I want to figure out ways to fix them without nagging about them any more... perhaps a little reverse psychology will do the trick.
- Get Caden to stop being dependent on the iPad.
- Get Nick to sweep the floor after he cleans the catbox and subsequently dirties the entire bathroom with litter.
- Get both of my boys to understand what "cleaning up after your shower" means. Toys in the tub, shower curtain closed, dirty clothes in the hamper, wet towel hung up.
- Get Nick to turn his closet into his "catch all" space instead of his nightstand. Out of sight, out of mind.
- Get Caden to sleep in his own bed. Through the night. For goodness sake.
- Get Nick to notice the details. Like the spoon or straw or cup that he no doubt left in the dishwasher when he emptied it.
- Get Nick to put a new trash liner in the can. Or just get the trash out as soon as it's full, not two days later.
- Get Caden to understand that making a mess isn't fun. Because it requires cleaning it all up. Something he is not good at.
- Get both of my guys less addicted to sweets. 'Cause mama needs to eat healthy and I can't do that with all this junk food around.
- Get Nick to water the plants. And maybe have Caden help.
- Get Nick less addicted to video games. And implement a no-gaming rule when the kids are awake.
- Get Caden to love sharing toys with his sister.
- Get myself to stop being so anal and not sweat when by boys are being... boys.
These are goals for the ways I document our life. Goals for our blog. Goals for our photos. Goals for our memories.
- Blog more than once a month. I'm able to keep up by back-dating posts but I'd really prefer to just post consistently and provide more details about the small stuff we do.
- Finally create the family cookbook I've been talking about with my mom. Make a list of the recipes to include and start knocking them out (recipe, test run, and photos).
- Start appreciating my iPhone photos more. Nick hates when I take pictures, so for his sake I need to stop lugging my camera to every family outing.
- Organize my photos based on date they were taken. Also, add tags to my photos so they're easy to sort and search through.
- Use Pinterest more often and to my advantage. Not to pin laundry room ideas for a house I don't own (and probably never will) but to pin real ideas that I actually can use for things like holidays, birthdays, and photography.
- Create family yearbooks on My Publisher so I can have all of my photos printed and at my disposal, not locked on a hard drive.
- Use my writing to remember events. I need to learn to blog about our life through words and not photos.
- Do the 365 Project (1 photo every day for a year) and This is Our Life Project (one photo per week based on the theme determined by Paint the Moon).
- Print out my Instagram photos and/or create a photo book with them.
- Add more pages to our blog: The Littlest House (our DIY adventures) and The Littlest Kitchen (recipes).
- Take family photos with a self timer. This will be a doozy but I am determined to try and capture some moments of our family craziness. Nick will be thrilled with this one...
- Update the Milestones, Growth Chart and Belly Days pages of our blog.
- Enjoy taking each photo and release any pressure of "capturing THE moment."